A few years ago, I was tasked with organizing a bachelor party for one of my closest friends. I had never booked a stripper before and honestly didn’t know where to begin. At first, I thought it would be as simple as making a call and choosing someone from a list, but I quickly realized there was much more involved. From understanding the kind of performance we wanted to ensuring the venue was appropriate and respectful, every step required planning. I made a few rookie mistakes — like forgetting to ask about tipping policies and not informing all the guests of the basic ground rules. Thankfully, the agency I chose was professional and guided me through the process. The event turned out to be a huge success, and I learned that proper communication, respect, and preparation make all the difference. That experience taught me a lot — and inspired me to write this guide to help others avoid the common pitfalls I encountered.
Booking live entertainment like a stripper can add excitement to your celebration. But to ensure everything goes smoothly, it’s important to understand the etiquette and best practices. Whether you’re organizing a bachelor party, birthday bash, or private event, these ten rules will help you avoid uncomfortable situations and maximize the fun — while staying respectful and professional.
1. Know What Kind of Event You’re Hosting
Not every party is the same. Some events call for a high-energy vibe, while others may require a more low-key and classy performance. Understand your audience and the occasion. A bachelor party may involve a more playful performance, while a corporate event may need something more subtle. Booking the right style of performer is key to ensuring the event matches the mood.
2. Always Book Through a Trusted Company
One of the most important steps is choosing a reputable agency. Professional entertainment agencies screen their performers, have clear service terms, and offer customer support. Booking directly from unverified sources can lead to last-minute cancellations or unpleasant surprises. Look for agencies with genuine reviews, transparent pricing, and clear performer profiles.
3. Read the Terms and Conditions Carefully
Every service comes with its own set of rules. Before confirming your booking, take time to read the agency’s terms and conditions. Pay attention to policies regarding cancellations, refunds, tipping, and performance limitations. It helps avoid disputes later and sets clear expectations on both sides.
4. Be Clear About What You Want
When you speak with the agency or book online, provide details such as the event type, location, number of guests, and any special requests. If you prefer a themed costume or a particular performance style, mention it in advance. Clear communication ensures a better match and fewer misunderstandings.
5. Respect Professional Boundaries
Strippers are trained entertainers, not personal companions. Maintain professional boundaries during the event. Most performers operate under a “no-touch” policy. Respect that, and make sure your guests do too. Inappropriate behavior or harassment can lead to the performance being cut short without a refund.
6. Prepare the Venue Properly
Set up a clean, safe, and private performance space. Make sure there’s enough room for the performer to move, a chair if needed, and good lighting. Remove obstacles, and ensure guests have clear visibility. If you’re hosting in a hotel or Airbnb, check that adult entertainment is allowed on the premises.
7. Keep Guests Informed About the Rules
Let your guests know what to expect and what’s not allowed. For example, no photos or videos may be permitted. Respect for the performer is non-negotiable. Setting ground rules early helps avoid awkward situations and ensures the performer feels comfortable and safe.
8. Budget for More Than Just the Base Fee
The cost of hiring a stripper isn’t limited to the booking fee. Tips are usually expected and are part of industry standards. Consider adding extras like travel fees or costume changes depending on your preferences. Discuss all costs upfront to avoid surprises later.
9. Don’t Wait Until the Last Minute
Good performers get booked quickly — especially on weekends or holidays. Book as early as possible to secure your preferred time slot and entertainer. Booking ahead also gives the agency time to accommodate any special requests or customizations.
10. Ensure the Event Complies with Local Laws
Before planning anything, make sure adult entertainment is legal in your area and at your event location. Some cities and venues have restrictions. Check local laws or ask the agency if they have experience in your area. Legal compliance prevents penalties or party disruptions.
FAQs About Booking Strippers for Events
Q1: Is it okay to tip the stripper?
Yes. Tipping is appreciated and often expected. It’s a way to show gratitude for a great performance.
Q2: Can we request a specific costume or theme?
Absolutely. Most agencies offer themed performances. Just mention your request during booking.
Q3: What happens if a performer cancels?
Reputable agencies usually have backup entertainers on-call and clear refund or rescheduling policies in place.
Q4: Are photos or videos allowed during the performance?
In most cases, no. Always ask permission beforehand. Many performers prefer to keep their work private.
Q5: How long do performances usually last?
Most shows last between 15 to 30 minutes, but extra time can often be arranged for an additional fee.
Final Thoughts
Bringing in a stripper for your event can add unforgettable energy and excitement. But to ensure everyone has a good time — including the entertainer — you need to approach it with professionalism, respect, and planning. Following these 10 essential rules will help you throw a successful, drama-free party that your guests will be talking about for years to come.
